Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Last mission conversation with mom.

Mom:  Malynne, I am not liking your short letters.  I want to hear the mission stories.  Are you going to be ready to come home?  Your last line of you have a family there made me sad and made me wonder how hard is it going to be for you to leave Helena.  Just remember your family in Utah misses you tons.

Malynne:  Sorry you don't like my short letters. I don't have time to send long ones and a lot happens all the time. I will tell you mission stories when I get home. I am going to be ready I think....I don't want to think about it right now though.

Mom:  I came home from work so that I can talk to you.  I am praying that you are still there.

Malynne:  I am, but I have something really important to do so it might be spotty.

Mom:  We are leaving in about 20 minutes to get hair cuts.  I need to know if you need an appointment or did you get your hair done?  Are you ready to come home?  What are you doing that is so important?

Malynne:  I am getting my hair done more today the red didn't come out so we are trying again. :) I am ready to come home, but I have some things I will want to do before the end.

Mom:   just want you to know I am proud of you.

Malynne:  Thanks. :) I can't wait to tell you all about my mission!

Mom:  We are going to go out to dinner on Saturday, La Hacienda by where dad works.  Is that ok with you?  We kinda want everyone to go home afterwards so we can have you to ourselves Saturday evening. 

Malynne:  Sounds good to me! :)

Mom:  We are off to get haircuts.  I love you and I will see you in 5 days and a few hours!!!   Can't wait to kiss those chubby cheeks!  Loves!!!

Malynne:  Have fun getting hair cuts! LOVES!
 

Monday, August 11, 2014

Letter to Malynne! Love, Mom

Today I have had tears. I read my daughters last mission email. She bore her testimony of her love for our Savior Jesus Christ, of the atonement, of Joseph Smith, the Book of Mormon and the restoration of the Gospel. It was a simple, beautiful testimony.

She will be home in 5 days, as many fingers as I have one one hand. I can't wait for her to be home, and yet I am sad that her mission is over. As mixed as my feelings are I can only imagine hers.

Malynne has been gone for 18 months. She has missed a lot of firsts. She missed her younger sisters first year at girls camp, her excitement of having her braces removed and all the Chinese words she can speak, her other sisters first date, first prom and first driving experiences (although she will still get to experience this as Makennas driving is still like a first time experience every time). She has missed seeing her brother grow and grow and grow. She missed seeing him get the priesthood and serve the sacrament for the first time. She has missed family vacations, family get togethers and our first “family” temple trip (everyone old enough to go). She has been missed and she has missed a lot. However, while serving as disciple of Christ she has “seen” so much. Montana! They call it Big Sky Country and from the pictures she has sent home the name fits. She has seen the majestic mountains, wilderness, wildlife and beautiful people of Montana. She has seen miracles, see the Spirit as it has touched the lives of her new found brothers and sisters. She has felt!!!! She has had a real sister.... and a second sister, and a third.....some were easy to love and some not so easy to love, but she learned how to love them. She has eaten buffulo, elk, caribou, rabbit, pheasant, and venison (which she thought was a bird until she was served venison stew and asked if it was steak). She has tasted a new life. She has lived 18 months with ear problems and still listens to the spirit. She has lived without hot water, and without heat for a short period of time in the middle of winter. She has changed wards, branches, broken hearts and lives. She has changed and she has lived.

So...When I cry that it's the ending.....I also realize that it is the start of a new beginning. A new daughter is coming home. One I have never met. She is stronger and a stranger. Her shoes and clothes are worn out, but knowing my Malynne she will be wearing a smile. I'll know her face, it's never left my thoughts but there is a new light in her eyes (look at her pictures and you will see it too).

As she prepares to come home my heart aches for her. My prayers have been answered. She has been blessed, protected, provided for and loved. Saturday I will have my girl home.

Yes, there are tears!

Last email.....WHAT??????

Okay well, this is my last week as a missionary. It is kind of crazy and I don't really know if I have anything more to say about it.
 
I want you all to know that I love you all so much. I am thankful for this time that I have had to serve here as a missionary in the Montana Billings mission. I am so thankful for the people and all that I have learned. I also am thankful for my Savior Jesus Christ. I love him more than words can express! I know that through him all that is wrong about life can be made right. He is the source of our light and our happiness and as we look to him we will be able to find true peace and joy through out our lives and throughout eternity. Joseph Smith is a prophet who was called of God to restore the gospel in this last dispensation and also to translate the Book of Mormon. The Book of Mormon is the word of God and is one of the most precious tools that we have in returning to our Heavenly Father again. The gospel is restored in its fullness. I know all these things to be true for myself! :)
 
I love you all and can't wait to see you! LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe 

Monday, August 4, 2014

My missionary Tan Line

Tan line of a missionary!

10 Highlights of my week.

I don't have lots of time and so I will once again just send the top 10 highlights of my week.
1-We got a new investigator and we were literally led to her house.
2-We had 4 investigators at sacrament meeting.
3-We put Zach Carter on date to be baptized on the 14th of August
4-We got to go to girlscamp for a day and saw lots of moose
5-We had interviews with President Mecham
6-We are learning a lot about the atonement
7-members bought me dried coconut
8-I got lots of letters & stamps
9-The Actons are coming to visit on Saturday
10-I feel like I have a family here. :)
 
Yep it was a good week. Thanks for all your love and support! LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe 

I don't want to think about it right now. :)

Mom:
 Dear Daughter,
I can not wait for you to come home!  The time is getting close, and I am excited.
This week Connor got glasses.  Makenna said he looks like a sexy geek.  Connor is proud of the title and came and told me that with his glasses he looks like a sexy geek!
The girls are going to be going to girls camp this week.  They leave on Tuesday.  Makenna said that she did not want to go.  I told her she was going.  She complained for the first 6 weeks of summer, and now, finally she is excited and ready to go.  She is going to teach a class on knife safety and she is very excited and proud to be doing this.
On Friday dad and I went to a wedding for one of my YW from Provo. Tannith Jakins got married.  She did not get married in the temple and the entire event helped me to realize that sometimes good decisions that could be better are still good decisions.  Tannith had made A LOT of bad choices in her teens and early 20's.  She did drugs, rehab, alcohol, rehab, drugs, jail time, rehab, probations, lived with many men, stole property amounting in a felony, more jail time (could have been prison time).   She has been excommunicated from the church and was very excited about getting rebaptized about 24 months ago.  It did not happen.  She has never told me all the reasons, but she felt she was ready for rebaptism and her bishop did not.  She got angry and gave up on working hard to get that baptism.  I thought that when that happened she would rebound back to her old life and old habits.  She did not, or almost did not. She found her now husband, a good guy who has a history much like her own, moved in with him, but got married to this nice man on Friday.  I told her I was proud of her and meant it.  She might not be making choices that I would like her too, but she made a good choice and is heading in the right direction.  Hopefully with time she will continue moving forward, will get rebaptized and eventually go to the temple, but for now I need to rejoice that she is learning about making good choices, and is moving forward.  I hope what I just said was not just a jumble of words, but the feelings I felt were good, and that is what I wanted to express.
On Saturday we went to Hunters baptism.  It was good, but so long....too long.  His baptism and confirmation were almost 2 hours.  In our stake it is a long baptism/confirmation if it goes an hour.  Between the baptism and confirmation, when Hunter and Jay were changing,  they asked family members to write testimonies/feelings for Hunter.  Everyone in our family took a paper and wrote.  I was humbled and filled with love and admiration for all my children as I read what they wrote before they were handed in.  Makenna, Makayla and Connor all wrote beautiful testimonies.  It made me so proud (the good kind of proud).  They have all grown up so much!!!
Today Makenna bore her testimony in Sacrament Meeting.  It was beautiful.  She talked about being a spectator or a Gladiator and what kind of a person are you.  Are we going to be spectators and let life just happen or are we going to be Gladiators and go after what we want, are we going to pray to find our testimonies, and pray for guidance or are we just going to sit back and wait to see if we believe?  She talked about how Heavenly Father wants us to be Gladiators and how she is trying to be a Gladiator, that she knows that Heavenly Father loves her and that she needs to fight for him. What she said was beautiful!  You would have been proud of her.  I am sure that all of our prayers and fasting have helped her.  Thank you for your prayers and letters.  Even though she has not written back your letters have made a difference to her and your returning and spending time with her will make an even bigger difference.
Speaking of your return.  Your are scheduled to speak in sacrament meeting on the 24th.  You and Ben Judd will be the only speakers that day.  You need to please talk about some of the Monanteese language that you learned.  Please some how incorporate that into your talk.  (too funny).  Also, dad and I are going to wait for you to get home to get you a car.  We want to see how you want to handle it, what kind of a car you want.  Do you want to find it, do you want us to find it...how to finance it....ect.  We have thought about so much about what we want to do when you get home but ultimately it will be your decision.  We will be going to Wicked on the 23rd, and St. George on the 29-1.
Schmoo, stay strong, keep up the work and know we are always praying for you.  We love you!!!  I will try to watch for your letter tomorrow and maybe we can talk.
I love you,
Loves,
MOM

Malynne:  Mom, I love you. That's all I can say right now. I can't wait to see you when I get home. :) We will talk about everything when I get there. LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe

Mom:  I am here.

Malynne:  How are you?

Mom:  I may have a job for you when you get home.  Someone that I work with is wanting to hire you to be a nanny for his kids, $900 a month, working M-F 12 to 5.  Your main job would be to run his kids to various practices etc.  I told him you will talk to him when you return home....just something to think about.  It would be a great job to go to school with!

Malynne:  That would be a good job...except I still have to figure out how to pay for it.
school I mean. how to pay for school.....I don't want to go more in debt for it.

Mom:  Well, you are not planning on going to school right away right?  That would give you a few months to save up.  I think that is a good decision.  We are going to wait for you to get home to decide what you want to do about a car.

Malynne:  Yeah thanks. I don't want to think about it right now. :)




Friday, August 1, 2014

Travel itinerary

I just got this today from church travel. There is a slight change in arrival time. Sister Erbe will not know of these updates before departure day. This is the current accurate itinerary.
Sister Hopkins
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From: Emily Marvin
Sent: Tuesday, July 29, 2014 10:06 AM
To: Montana Billings Mission
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FAX      : 801-240-5115                    ERBE/MALYNNE NICOLE 353620-R
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Monday, July 28, 2014

19 days!!! Only 5 1/2 minutes to write.

Well, I didn't plan this email session very well so I now have 5 1/2 minutes to write this whole email. So it's gonna be short. SORRY!
 
This week was super busy, but we had loads of fun.
Highlights of the week.
1-we painted a house with the Elders and it was super fun and we got paint everywhere!
2-We helped decorate for another rodeo and it was the tough enough to wear pink thing again.
3-Our investigator Lisa had a baby and we got permission to go and hold her. :)
4-We stayed super busy this week and it was great!
5-There was a big stake party barbeque and we got lots of ice cream.
6-I got the funniest tan line of my entire life and I will send pictures next week. :)
7-We went on exchanges and I learned a lot.
8-I had a water war with the Wrays and we were drenched and laughing soo hard.
9-We performed surgery on a vaccume cleaner....It was dead to begin with?
10-And I found out the Actons are coming to visit me. :) yay!!!!
 
Well, sorry this email was short and vague, but it was a good  week. I love you all soo much! can't wait to see you (19 days!) LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe 

Helena Baby.



Our investigator had a baby this week and so we got permission to hold her. :) She is soo cute and it was a great conversation about the premortal existence. 





Also I ate a green popsicle! :)



Monday, July 21, 2014

This is a short one. Not much time left.

Hello family! Well this week was good. I honestly don't remember most of what happened though because it went so fast. This email will thus be relatively short.

We had a meeting on Wednesday. It was my last zone conference, so I gave my departing testimony. I don't really remember what I said, but I was told it was good. :) I basically just talked about the things that I have come to know on my mission. Like knowing the church is true and knowing that Jesus Christ is my savior. I really do know these things. I have learned them more and they have been engrained even more deeply into my soul as I have had the opportunity to teach people about it everyday. We also talked about having the eternal perspective and eternal marriage. It was different to talk about because we usually talk about stuff that pertains to missionary work and right now and in this meeting we talked about things in the future and what will come.

So then on Friday we did weekly planning and then we had some appointments and we biked everywhere. It was good.

Saturday we did a really long service project. We cleaned out a members shed and it was hot and we did it for 5 1/2 hours. It was a really long day. At first it was fun just pulling stuff out and playing with it. Sister rider found a leaf blower that looked like a bazooka and I had these giant scissors. We were tired and sunburned and then we biked home and had appointments all day long.

That is basically the good stuff that happened this week that I can remember. Kind of a crazy week! Time is speeding up! Anywho, I love you all so much! I hope that you have a great week! LOVES!!!!!
-Sister Malynne Erbe

Helena, Montana - Rainbow, Sister Rider and Service with a bazooka and scissors.

A rainbow....kind of cheesy but I liked it.
Then Sister Rider and I.
Then Sister Riders leaf blower bazooka that we found cleaning out a shed.  And my huge scissors!

 









 

More pictures of Goodbye Whitefish


Saying goodbye in Whitefish...more pictures.





Sunday, July 20, 2014

Letter between mom and Malynne

Mom:
Dear Malynne,
I know it has been a while since I have written, I am sorry.  Last week I ended up working at Vinyl until about 1 and I think I missed you by about 15 minutes.  I was so bummed.  I need your Address!!!!
I have started a daily countdown on FB, today you only have 27 more days until you are home!!!!!  I can't wait.
Last night we went to the Scera Shell and saw Les Miserables.  It was very well done, but nothing like Alfie Boe.  When they sang the song Bring Him Home, I just smiled this time, no tears.  I know that our Heavenly Father has watched over you and that you will be home soon! :)
Grandma has picked a roommate for you and has rented the basement to this girl.  I told her that that was not cool, and that now it would be up to you if you even want to move in.  Grandma said that this girl needed a home and she know you will "just love her".  I told my mom that you have had 18 months of not getting to pick your roommates and now it will be 100% up to you if you want to live there or not.  We will talk more about this when you get home.
On Thursday I went and visited Grandma Alma.  The doctors are trying to decide if they should put her on a morphine drip.  Aunt Joleen does not want to do this because Grandma sleeps so deeply on morphine that she can't even be woken up to be feed and she feels that the few things she does enjoy will be lost to her.  She looks forward to watching a few shows on TV, and she loves visitors. Sometimes you will be talking to Joleen and laugh about something and Grandma will smile or laugh.  So we know that she is listening to the conversations around her and understanding them.  However, she is physically in so much pain that the morphine will help her to deal with that.  I think that morphine is just one step closer to death for her.  I did tell Grandma about your request to go from the airport to her home and she smiled and said, "Really?"  I said yes and she got teary eyed and kept smiling.
I need to get my nursery lesson together.
I love you, I will watch for you tomorrow.
Loves,
Mom
Malynne:   Hey mom, you might be working and now in Helena we only have 1 hour to email people so not much time at all. I don't mind that Grandma picked a roommate because I have been really stressed out about the whole thing and finding a roommate. I just want to be the one to decorate....I have it all planned out in my head how I will decorate it! And if it doesn't work out...then I will find an apartment somewhere probably not in Lehi and just keep working until I can afford to go to school. I'm not worried about it. Also if I don't like her, then I don't have to stay so it's different than a mission. But I am pretty sure things will be fine. I don't know how I feel about morphine....maybe Grandma needs a blessing and then she can just go in peace. I do want to see her with all my heart, but I also want to see her happy and well like I remember her. On the other side ya know? How is teaching nursery going? I hope it's going good. I also hope that you have a great week! LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe 

Mom:  Dear Daugher,
I love the nursery.  i am in there with Maddie Tilley, who has decided that she LOVES you.  She follows all your letters, pictures and she has told me over and over "Malynne is BEAUTIFUL, those big blue eyes, curly hair, and big fat lips.  She will be married in no time."  She knows how many days until you come home and everything. 
On the day that you come home there is a ward party.  Do you want to go?  I think it would be fun.

Malynne:  yes let's do it! :) I love Maddie too! Ha ha. I am going to write you a letter today, but I was wondering if you could send me some stamps? I am almost out! I love you soo much I will write more in my letter but I am out of time here :( Tell Maddie that I love her!

Mom:  so I have a little bit of bad news we can not get your hair done on the day you return we're going to have to wait until Monday or Tuesday I'm sorry but it just won't work out

Malynne:  Well, there is a Sister here who will help with my hair and get it so that it's one color. :)

Monday, July 14, 2014

A Week in Helena.

Hello everyone! :)

This week was my first in Helena. It was pretty good! There is a lot to do here and I forgot how much that I missed having appointments all the time. We really didn't have appointments in whitefish just because nobody would really make appointments. I have already met some awesome people here and life is good.

Saying goodbye in whitefish totally stunk. I had a lot of people call the mission president and ask if I could just stay. President called and talked to me on Monday morning and said that he wanted me to end my mission on a high note and that there were people in Helena that I still need to teach. So, I decided that going wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. We said goodbye in Monday & Tuesday and then on Wednesday we packed my suit cases in the truck and left at 6:30. We got to Helena at 11:30 and I got to see lots of people that I haven't seen in a long time and might not see again on my mission. As soon as I got here we had appointments. I went and put my stuff at our house and we left. We had service with a lady named jewelie. She is a hairdresser, so we went to her salon. She was making a pink canopy for the 'tough enough to wear pink' rodeo fundraiser and she needed some help. So, we went and we helped measure and cut. Then I went and met a family named the wrays who are awesome! I can't remember what else we did, but it was crazy.

Thursday we did more service for jewelie and then for the wrays. We helped them clean out their shed and they gave us lots of free clothes...unfortunately now I have to many clothes again, so I need to send some home again. We had dinner and then did more service and it was good.

Friday we helped at the rodeo. We went in the morning and set it up. One of the elders cut his thumb and had to go to he emergency room to get his thumb stitched up. We then went over and helped jewelie again just because it was getting crunch time and she needed help finishing. Then we went to dinner with less actives and then went and helped at the rodeo again selling stuff.

Saturday we went to a parade and got lots of candy. Then we went and visited lots of people and went and cleaned the church. Then we had dinner with jewelie and had a lesson with the wrays.

Sunday we went to ward council, and then church and then had lots of appointments. We taught a boy named zach who is 12 and from a part member family. He is getting baptized in a few weeks. :) we taught him about the word of wisdom and he made this big huge deal about how he can't give up coffee. Then his mom said "zach, you have coffee like once a month..." Sooo funny! :) we went and taught a less active family named the lehmans after that. Their son Jared wants to come to church so that he can pass the sacrament someday. /:) the mom came with him to church, so we stopped by to talk about what they thought of it. Then we went off to dinner again with jewelie. Then we wen over to an area and started tracting. It was good....Except that it was like 94 degrees and we were dying! But then we found a less active and taught him and set up a return appointment. After that we went and visited a part member family who are awesome! After that we had an appointment with the wrays. And it was kind of a little crazy, but lots of fun.

Yep, basically that was my whole week. I hope that you have a really great week! Love you all! :)

-Sister Malynne Erbe

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Sister Acton Meets Jacinda

  Sister Erbe,
> I want to let you know that over the years we have had truly only a
> couple of missionaries that we have asked for their parents email. You
> are one. Sister Erbe was in our life during a real difficult time in
> our life as parents of a missionary. Our son has I guess been blessed
> with receiving Elders who need extra help, who frankly in our opinion,
> this companion should have gone home Every rule was broken, our son
> drained his personal bank account twice because this companion felt
> that he did not have to pay, he slit our son's shoes, was with girls,
> lied, and I can not even remember it all. I do know that the Lord
> blessed us here at home with shoes that were of equal or better
> quality for 33.00 a pair, During those months, it seemed to be that
> there was alot of extra from ward members putting in to account, which
> alleviated the pressure so we could keep funds in his personal
> account, and Sister Erbe always knew what to say to us to help us
> through, She is much like our son and was able to give him advice to
> help him with this Elder. If it were not for her, I felt as if he was
> giving up. Was this connection to her we will never know. She is a
> special spirit, and has a great spirit about her. We apparently made
> her laugh. We are "crazy mormons" or as my son says
> "chueco"-crooked but obedient. We like to think of ourselves as living
> the gospel, always trying to progress, but having fun in the process.
> There is such a thing as clean, wholesome fun. They got to experience
> some one night when we had our autistic grandson. They loved it and
> from then on felt like they good just be at home. Your daughter will
> be greatly missed, and I am sure she feels like my son at times, he
> feels like that he did not complete his job, partly due to his bad
> companion, but as I reminded him...think of the souls you saved by
> saving one soul. Not every missionary can do as our children do. It is
> trying for them but do know this You can be proud of your daughter.
> She is a great example of how she was brought up.
>
> May you continue to be blessed as she serves in Helena. I am sure you
> are busy preparing a welcoming party for her. Do me one favor? Give
> her a big Hug and tell her it is from SIster Acton.
>
> God Bless you and your family,
> Sister Acton

From Jacinda to Sister Acton:
I am a crier and your letter also made me cry. I also want to say that
I feel that I just made an instant friendship with you and your family.

I know our Heavenly Father had Malynne in Whitefish when he did so that
your family could help her get through her difficult companionships.
Many times I told her, "if the only person you convert on your mission
is yourself then it will be successful. If by chance you make an impact
in the lives of companions and others chalk it up to bonus and Heavenly
intervention".

We too are a crazy Mormon family and proud of it. We love to have fun,
laugh and play. Malynne is conflicted whether to come to Whitefish for
the 4th of July or to come later in the month when your son is
speaking. I will let that be her decision, but your family is the
reason we will be vacationing in Northern Montana (and I am so excited,
I have heard how beautiful it is).

From Ssiter Acton to Malynne:  I laughed out loud when I read your email. I cried too. How We miss her! The reason there was a connection after I read your email is because we sound so much alike!   We did not hear much about your family, but I can tell you and I must think alike.

So let me introduce myself. My name is Patricia and I go by Trish. I am a 1st generation mormon in my family and if you ask your daughter she will tell you alot of what  I just was going through.  I was feeling persecuted by my own family. After many nights of praying and reading a scripture that happened to appear on my husbands cell phone-(he does not use this phone for the scriptures)  he told me I was to read D&C 121.  Your daughter helped me to get through this trying time too. I would get up in the morning to a text that said" We love you" 

If it was not for them I don't think I would have made it through.

My husband is 21 years older than me and he had 3 children from a previous marriage. I raised his daughter from the age of 12. I did things backwards. I started with 2 teenagers then had our own. 
We have 7 grandchildren. So I am not as old you think. I will be 50 in January. Sister Erbe was hysterically cute one night. They stopped by and said we were wondering if we could ask you a question. Of course we immediately responded yes we can feed you! They laughed and said "No we have a dinner appt. 
Brother Acton we were going through the ward list and it says- and I said yes he is 71. They looked and laughed. I said we get it alot. It is OK. 

Our Son is Sean, he is 19 and will be 20 in September and serves in the Concepcion Chile Mision.  He is currently in a tow called Chillan which is about 100 miles from Concepcion and about 100 miles from the base of the Andes. He served 6 months in a town called Retiro, and  after that town I think I can handle anything! He lived basically on chicken brother with a potato or maybe a chicken leg or a few vegetables.  Now he gets everything fried and it is not sitting well with him.  I hope and pray he goes somewhere that the food is gentler. 

We don't have alot of money but we are richer than many in our ward that do have money. I believe that we should always be trying to fill our lamps full of oil. So we are humble, and loving and live the gospel and fill our bodies with the essentials that we need to take with us. So we truly live the gospel, ask for forgiveness when it is needed, and we are not so proud to say we mess up from time to time. This is how we learn. 

It would be awesome to meet you and your family. It is amazing how the Lord works and how he puts people into peoples lives.  It is too bad that we never met when we lived in Salt Lake. 

I love to sew, make cards, can when I can get a chance, I have started to many crafts and I have to pick and choose what I do. My latest thing has been glass etching.  My husband does Leather work. Your daughter will be getting scripture covers. We have to send them to her.  We are a family that we make gifts for Christmas and you have to think about the person you are doing things for so it makes it even better.  We  love to see what is done for each other. 

I would love to know more about you and your family.  We told sister Erbe it would be fun for her to be here when Sean got home. Actually I know she wants to go to Lovell area, Which by the way My husband is from Lovell and Cowley- He was born in Cowley. Ironically, she said that was her favorite area, Cowley has their Pioneer celebration- the Saturday closest to the 24th.  Sean comes Home on the 28th.  We did not go home this year as I was gone for a month to my parents.  Maybe we could meet up there.? Then come to Whitefish. 

I hope you enjoy your daughter again, When she comes to visit I will have to give her the ice cream party we were going to have- Transfers interfered! I just might make her waffle bowls and cones and send to salt lake. 

We have thoroughly enjoyed working with your daughter with a set of investigators, and we go to them again tomorrow.  I will certainly keep her posted. 

I am so looking forward to hearing about you. It is neat connecting with another Missionary Mom.  Hopefully you don't think I am weird sending this kind of an email. However I don't know how else to tell you about me. 

Have a super awesome day, and your emails brought tears to my husbands eyes.  

Trish

Jacinda's reply:

Dear Trish,
So.....?  We may have been twin sisters in heaven.  We have many similarities...I LOVE to scrapbook, sew, just finished canning 24 pints of apricot jam (and still have apricots coming out of my ears), crochet, knit, and have little projects everywhere.  My goal is to finish one project before starting another, but that is a long term goal.

I am 48, pioneer stock member (but my parents were less actives when I was growing up), gained my testimony by exercising my free agency and learning how the atonement works and by learning that my Heavenly Father knows me better than I know myself.  I was born and raised in Utah, but when I was 22 I "escaped" to California......had the time of my life being single in CA, became active in a Young Adult Ward, meet my husband, married him, had Malynne while living there and one day (much to my dismay) felt prompted to return to Utah.  My husband had been having the same feelings so we knew it needed to happen.  My husbands brother called us Hillbillies because we moved to Utah on a "whim" (because that is where the Lord was directing us), without a home and without a job.  We had $1200 to our name and a cute baby sitting in the back seat.  That decision changed our lives.  We have been blessed, and blessed and blessed since coming here.  Utah is not my favorite place, but it is where we are suppose to be and we know it is, so Utah is where we stay.  During the school year I work at the Elementary School for about 10 hours a week.  I am a Resource Aide, working with kids that have learning disabilities.  I love my job.  I have another job that I work about 15 hours a week (during the school year), 20 hours a week during the summer.  I do invoicing for a vinyl fencing company.  This job is not my favorite, I did not apply for this job, it just fell into my lap at a time that it was needed (right after Malynne left for her mission). When the job was offered I made if very clear that my first priority is my family, that when my kids are home from school I will be too, that when there is a break I will not be at work, and that when I want time off I will tell them that I will not be in (no questions).  I am kind of a brat there, but they need me enough that I get what I want.  This summer I am working 7 to 11am and then I am done.  It is good for my kids, when I get home they are up showered, done their jobs, practiced instruments and ready to have fun.  My goal is to work until Malynne comes home and then offer to train her for free if they will let her have my job. 

We have Malynne and 3 others children:  Makenna (17), Makayla (14 in Sept.), and Connor (12).  They are awesome kids, and all are so excited for Malynne to come home.

I am currently serving as a Nursery Leader.  It is a new calling and so far I love it!!!!  I just got released as the RS President, so this is a much appreciated change.  Lowell, my husband, is the ward Mission Leader.  We have the missionaries at our home almost every other day and enjoy every minute of it.  I feel that we are one of the lucky families in our stake to have such a good relationship with the missionaries.  Our missionaries, a set of Elders, cover 2 stakes 16 wards, all within walking distance.  Since we have lots of bi polar weather here, and since we have lots of hills, we are often called and asked to transport the missionaries.  We try to help whenever possible...often the question from the Elders is "How many of your girls are home right now?  Can you come get us?"  If both girls are home we can help, if not I try to find them a ride.  Or they will come over and wait for Lowell to get home.  We love the missionaries.

I read all these emails to Lowell and he agrees that we need to meet you and your family some time.  I think we are going to try and go to Lovell in October.  I am sure you will know any time we are farther North than SLC......Malynne has made if very clear where she wants to travel to, and it is all North of Utah!!!!

It is so fun to hear about you and your family.  Thank you my friend.

Love,
Jacinda

Sister Acton's reply:
Dear Jacinda,
Wow, I laughed through your whole email-you and your husband remind me of US! I remember moving to Lander Wyoming when my son was 6  months old, Jim had lost his  job, and we had our tax refund of 700.00.  WOW.  Wouldn't dare do that today!  As it turned out my mom would have  surgery in the fall, and for nearly 1 and half I maintained the position of a new mother, taking care of my little family, just been called as RS Pres.; which scared me to death, (mind you I was only a member 2 years!), VT 60 sisters on the reservation every month, cook and clean for my mom and dad and do their laundry, as well as ours. It sound over whelming but I can literally say that the Lord had to turn the clock back to slow motion during that time. Everything got done, I was not afraid of my new position, in fact RS grew to 12 members because I was fresh blood and did not have a grudge with anyone. I also was at the same time Librarian. You probably have figured out that we lived on an Indian reservation and belonged to a branch, which is now closed:(

So I would like to say; If Heavenly Father did have Twin Spirit Children YES, it would have been awesome.  I can literally see us getting into so much together! However you have me beat...I have never learned to knit, I did not take the time to learn from my grandmother and she was good. I am a very basic crocheter(is this a word?) I taught myself as a form of physical therapy. I have to keep looking at your sentence - My goal is to finish one project! I swear the only time I finish something is if it is for someone or I have a deadline! I have so many little projects too. I even bought this new thing called quilling I think last year before Sean left-guess what - yup still in the bag!  My son does not even have a room. He packed it up and I moved all my crafting stuff in there and my grandson likes to sleep in Uncle Seans bed , but if I keep going wow I am going to need a whole house! Only kidding.  

For Current callings-I served as Food storage specialist in Salt Lake, then Spokane and now here-total years 16 years! So yes I am starting to burn out. I went through all of scouts with my son as well as a den mother. My Husband can't seem to get rid of Committee Chairmen. He is slowly losing that position as the person who is in there now has changed things so he only has to register new scouts things like that. He is financial clerk and has been for 8 years. When Sean was asking me to help him with his genealogy to take with him, I told him I think you are done you just need to print it out. We had to do a couple of things but I told him, maybe dad and I will go on our own "mini mission" here at home. Being  a non member you can imagine the work I have.  Sean left for the Mexico MTC Aug 12 and the end of Sept we were in the Bishops office- We would like to call you as stake Family History Consultants! We looked at each other and burst out laughing. The puzzled look on our Bishops face- we then had to explain- I guess that is a yes then? We love it and we are in the stake ctr every Thursday for almost 5 hours and then we are also doing it as ward consultants. My husband and I decided to step it up a little and we index as well. I did not meet my goal last month being gone, but I am anxiously looking forward to get back to doing it. If we are not out with the missionaries we usually index for a couple of hours on Sunday, and sometimes as our FHE.  One of these days they will probably call us to the position as ward MIssionary Leaders. That would be fine. They are in my house enough and I am called enough to give rides, feed, sewing kits, yesterday I had to tend to a sick one. What is that saying...No rest ....

I cannot believe the similarities either. When I get Huckleberries I will make Huckleberry Jam and send you some. Maybe I will make a syrup that you can but on ice cream or pancakes. Or if you make shakes you could make huckleberry shakes. A taste of Montana.  They are staring to come out now.  

We cannot wait to meet you and you guys sound like you would be a fun bunch to play balderdash with! By the way we love to play games.  If you have never played it- you are asked a question ( up to 6 players) all the same question, so 5 people come up with the answer the person asking the question has the answer and then you read all 6 answers. At times you are in stitches just wondering where some of the stuff comes from- for instances, a date and the answer might be ...the french bra was put on the market, the first flushable toilet. A weird word and what does it mean-I think this is the favorite category! 

My husband comes from a long line of I guess pioneers. It appears that one of his ancesters was married to someone who came out with Brigham Young- and My son and I saw one of his relatives names on the wall at Sun ranch that helped in the second rescue. His Great Grandfather helped build the I believe it is the Sidon Canal and Prayer rock in Lovell and Cowely-they settled that area. His family was not always active and he has a brother and sister in law that are not active. Actually My sister in law is not a member- 

How we learn from our past and our families past, and choices. I told my son, When you make a decision a bout a spouse, make sure she wants the same goal as  you do, it does not mean you cannot be different people-but ultimately you need each other to return to Heavenly Father, You should both agree on how and when you want children and how they will be reared and you want someone who will take care of your children not let them run wild like today. 

It is amazing how the lord saved such strong Spirits for today. I need to get going but I just cannot believe the similarities. You will always have a place here if you wish. Whitefish is beautiful, and Sister Erbe probably did not even get to see so much of it- Libby is beautiful, that is an hour away, as canada is 1 1/2 hours-to 3 depending on where you go. Glacier is nice when the tourist aren't there. Frankly We stay to our home during the peak times- UGH- 

You take care and I need to read a lesson a prepare to go the Wards- Your daughter thought we would be a great fit for this family-They are getting the lesson on the plan of salvation- We did the Priesthood Leson, The restoration, it is funny- this couple is truly being taught by the spirit and lessons are done by the way questions are asked. This was a real come out my comfort zone but after the first time, I loved it! 

We are having a nice cool morning and it is a relief from the heat. Until next time,

Hugs to you and your family and see what project you will get done,,,My guess APRICOTS!  

Love,
Trish

PS what do you think our kids think of this?!



Again, thank you for loving my daughter. We will keep your son in our
prayers. What is his name?

Letter from Sister Acton to the Erbes re: Sister Erbe

 Sister Erbe,
I want to let you know that over the years we have had truly only a couple of missionaries that we have asked for their parents email. You are one. Sister Erbe was in our life during a real difficult time in our life as parents of a missionary. Our son has I guess been blessed with receiving Elders who need extra help, who frankly in our opinion, this companion should have gone home. Every rule was broken, our son drained his personal bank account twice because this companion felt that he did not have to pay, he slit our son's shoes, was with girls, lied, and I can not even remember it all. I do know that the  Lord blessed us here at home with shoes that were of equal or better quality for 33.00 a pair, During those months, it seemed to be that there was alot of extra from ward members putting in to account, which alleviated the pressure so we could keep funds in his personal account, and Sister Erbe always knew what to say to us to help us through,  She is much like our son and was able to give him advice to help him with this Elder. If it were not for her, I felt as if he was giving up. Was this connection to her we will never know. She is a special spirit, and has a great spirit about her. We apparently made her laugh. We are "crazy mormons" or as my son says
"chueco"-crooked but obedient. We like to think of ourselves as living the gospel, always trying to progress, but having fun in the process. There is such a thing as clean, wholesome fun. They got to experience some one night when we had our autistic grandson. They loved it and from then on felt like they good just be at home. Your daughter will be greatly missed, and I am sure she feels like my son at times, he feels like that he did not complete his job, partly due to his bad companion, but as I reminded him...think of the souls you saved by saving one soul. Not every missionary can do as our children do. It is trying for them but do know this You can be proud of your daughter. She is a great example of how she was brought up.

May you continue to be blessed as she serves in Helena. I am sure you are busy preparing a welcoming party for her. Do me one favor? Give her a big Hug and tell her it is from SIster Acton.

God Bless you and your family,
Sister Acton

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Letter from Brother Acton to the Erbe's re: Sister Erbe

Sister Erbe,

I just wanted to let you know how much we have enjoyed your missionary daughter. She truly brought a wonderful spirit into our home. We have had the opportunity of helping present the gospel to investigators with her. She is a great example for the church. Our son is serving in Chile and when we see missionaries like her it makes us feel even closer to our son. She is transferring today and we will really miss her.
Thank you for making all possible to have her in our home.

Brother Acton   

Monday, July 7, 2014

My 4th of July S'more!!!!!

OH and one that I forgot from the fourth of July....this is my smore. :) 

Goodbye Whitefish

Saying goodbye to the Lanes, and to Carol Street in Whitefish.



Saying goodbye to the Actons and more of the Lanes.




Another Great Week in Whitefish and Transfers???!!!?????

Well, this week was great! :)

Monday we went to Costco and I already told you about that. Then Monday night we had an appointment with our investigators the Wards and we had Brother Acton came with us to it. Nikki told us that she was working on deciding which religion was right for her. So, we read the beginning of the Book of Mormon with her and she said that she really liked it. We made an appointment to come back the next day and to watch the restoration and read a little more of the Book of Mormon.

Tuesday we had to get up early because we had an appointment with John Hoag another investigator. We had Phil another member come with us and he taught John all about the Plan of Salvation. It was good. Then we went and we had some lunch, then we went straight to the community center to play mexican train dominos with some old ladies that we met. It was so cute and so much fun and so we decided that we were going to do it every week from now on! :) Then we went over to the Wards house again and watched the restoration with them and we read the beginning of the Book of mormon with her. Then we went to the park to make some phone calls. While we were there, there was a guy who came and told us that we were the worst missionaries because we weren't going what Peter and John did in the bible and just going without clothes or anything and preaching the word....it was weird! Then we went and ate dinner and I don't remember the rest of the night.

Wednesday we went and visited with some people and then had dinner with our relief society president. Then we had to go and pick up a giant 55" t.v. from a less active and take it over to the Wards. It was crazy and super heavy! it was one of those old ones with its old stand. The wards were so excited, but getting it into their house was crazy. Then once we got it in there they didn't have room and nobody knew how to hook it up. So, we called the Elders and they said that they could come over the next day to hook it up. After the wards we went and checked on our potential investigators Bob and Sue and set up a service project for the next day.

Thursday morning we got up and we had a service project, so we went and we mowed Bob and Sue's lawn and we weed wacked the back....I had never done it so we were sweaty and had grass sticking to us so bad that we couldn't pick it off or it would stick to our fingers. It was so fun! :) Then we picked up the Elders and went over to the Wards. We packed up everything in their entertainment center and moved it and then moved the entertainment center. Then Elder Blackmon hooked up the t.v. and we read a chapter out of the Book of Mormon and discussed the Word of Wisdom. It was super fun! :) Then we changed and went to our dinner appointment and it was great.

Friday morning we got up and went to the fourth of July breakfast. We had a bunch of people come lots of less actives and investigators and everybody had a great time! The Lanes brought a soccer ball and so we started a soccer game with all of the little kids and they all just loved tackling me a lot ha ha. :) We had stickers and made hats and we ate lots of food and socialized. It was honestly such a great morning! :) We then went to the art fair and we walked around and talked to a bunch of people and tried to hand out our pass along cards. Then we went home and changed into jeans because we were going to the Lanes for the rest of the day and going hiking and stuff. Sister Ayala decided to take a nap as soon as we got there. I hung out with the boys all day. :) We played 2 truths and a lie, and blew up everything we could find that was fun to blow up with fire crackers. We also played a game called fact or crap that was super fun. We goofed around on the guitar and played speed and ate food. :) Then Sister Ayala got up and we partied more. We had a bon-fire and told jokes and sang around it. Then, we went over to a little road and one of the millionaires that owns a big house over there puts on a $40,000 firework show. There was only about 50 cars so it was like our own little private show. :) Soo much fun! I love the Lanes they are like my little brothers. So yeah it was a good day. :)

Saturday was hard because we got permission to stay out so late on the fourth of July, so it was hard to get up. Also, Sister Ayala was very sad and homesick so she slept for most of the day. We finally talked about it and she told me how sad she was and we were able to fix it. Then, we went out to a magic show. One of our investigators has a husband who is a mediocre magician and he was doing his last show so they had a big party and invited everybody. :) So we went and watched it, and it was pretty fun! Then, we went over to the Lanes again. There is a Sister here visiting who used to be here on the mission and she was coming to visit so we were invited over to dinner. We went over there at about 7 and spent the rest of the night there. :) It was super fun...again! :P

Sunday morning came and the Zone leaders were calling to let us know our transfer news. We kept missing their call and finally as the sacrament started they called us. We decided that after the sacrament we would step out and call and find out our news. Sister Ayala is staying here in Whitefish, and I am going to be heading to Helena for my last transfer. I was very upset yesterday and didn't even want to do anything. So, we went to the Lanes again. I love everyone in Whitefish so much and there were lots of tears shed. I hate saying goodbye, but I know that I will be able to talk to them more often as soon as I get home. I guess going to Helena will be kind of a break because I don't have to know where anything is or who anyone is since I'm only going to be there for like 36 days. But after spending the day with the Lanes and talking to them and just getting a new perspective I know that this is right. They are bringing in Sister Davis one of my old companions and she is leaving at the same time as me ha ha. :P I called President Mecham to ask him why and he called back. He told me he wants me to end strong and that I can shine in this new area in a way that Whitefish wasn't allowing me. He told me that he knew that Whitefish was a hard area and that my numbers would never reflect how hard of a worker that I am. He also told me that Sister Davis needs to be in Whitefish for now. So, I guess I can accept that. ;)

Well, I love you all a lot, and I hope that you have an awesome week! LOVES!
-Sister Malynne Erbe

Conversation with mom: Transferring to Helena, Montana

Mom:  I just want you to know I love you and you need to tell me the Costco story.

Malynne:  The Costco story? We just found a member to take us. I we bought a bunch of food and I bought a little blender so that I could make smoothies for breakfast. It is small enough that I can pack it and bring it home with me. :) So it will be nice. Yeah not a huge story but yeah... 

Mom:  Alex Freeman came home.  Just found out from Mindy.  Apparently he was at church on Sunday.  No more information.

Malynne:  Weird....I am really the last one left. 

Mom:  (about an hour later)  So, I have been on the phone with T-mobile for hours, trying to straighten out our bill.  Then increased it by $200.....not happening.  I just got it resolved.  I just saw on FB that you got transferred?  How do you feel about this?  Who will your companion be?  Please send me your address.

Malynne:  I am going to Helena My companion will be Sister Rider. I was mad about being transferred, but now I don't care. I love Whitefish and it has become like home to me. No matter where I go Whitefish will be home and it will hold a piece of my heart. Well at least the people in it will. I am thankful that I got as much time as I did here and I don't know how Helena will be, but I am ready to go. 

Mom:  I am sure you will do great and 36 days is long enough to fall in love with people in Helena.  Make it the best 36 days!!!! 

Malynne:  Honestly I don't think I will love Helena ha ha. I think I will like it....but not love it. But hey I could be wrong you know? Brother Lane is our ward mission leader and he has had his sons in town, they're the ones we spent the 4th of July with. They are leaving on the 24th of July and we had all these plans with them because I love them. They are seriously like my little brothers! Hunter is 17 and Hayden is 14 and Hyrum is 11 so they are the exact same ages as my siblings. Yeah anyway I was pretty composed until I had to tell Hayden I was getting transferred and then we both cried and then everyone else was crying. I have kept it pretty well composed so far today. Ha ha, it's just like leaving my family again. That's what makes it hard. 

Mom:  So favorite areas?  Lovell and Whitefish?  Where will we be going in October?

Malynne:  Honestly I love them soo much! Both of them. It rips my heart out to think that I have to choose between them. Maybe we can go to Lovell and I can figure something out with Sister Owens so that we can come up to Kalispell/Whitefish right afterward. I am going to talk to her today. She is getting transferred her last transfer too and she has been in her area for over a year, so it's kind of crazy! 

Mom:  We can plan on going to Montana next summer and going to Glacier.  I think it would be good to stay kinda close in October, Wyoming.

Malynne:  Yeah, I don't know. We can come next summer and I can come in October! :) Ha ha. Well, we gotta go eat lunch a member is taking us out. I love you though and I will write you a letter! LOVES!

4th of July and Montana the Beautiful Cont.



My Marshmellow
















Sister Ayala and I
Brother Lane jammin'
 Sister Ayala and Hunter roasting marshmallows
Haydens creeper face.

Sister Lane and I.
 Hyrum covered in stickers
Sister Child and I 
 The yellow flower field
-more of the yellow flower field.